I’ve had many conversations recently about whether we ever truly change from our inborn “set point.” While I really want to be an optimist and have worked hard at it and often get there, at my core I most often start with pessimism. My husband, as many of you know, starts at optimism. Could he become a pessimist if he really wanted to? Hmmm … probably not. Could he learn pessimism if there was a good reason to do so at times? Most likely. Our set points are just that. Set points but not final points. It all depends upon how important it is we learn to do something against our set point.